Never Make a Promise


The idea of promises has always been fascinating for me. As a kid it meant that whatever was promised would happen. In most cases it did. These taught me to believe in people and to trust everyone unless otherwise proven wrong.

The other kind, of broken promises, taught me that some things are just not meant to happen however hard anyone tries. At such times, the reality of the fact that nothing in life is permanent and nothing in life can be taken for granted pops into my mind.

Not everyone can be trusted. But everyone should be given the benefit of the doubt. There was a phase in my life, where in I wouldn’t trust anyone. When a trust gets broken, it shatters your heart and makes you want to crawl up and die. But then you don’t. Something or someone always brings us back among the living.

It is said that the basis of any relationship is trust. If that basic block is not in place, then the whole thing is just a mass of wasted construction that is waiting to collapse at any moment. Other factors that form the basis of any relationship is mutual understanding , respect and of course love. Every relationship needs these to survive and the lack of any of them will hasten the collapse.

Most people live their life to prevent this collapse. Some in denial , some in total acceptance of the situation. Yet others are in the process of discovering which of the two is applicable to them.

Life is not full of beauty, happiness and honesty. It is filled with deceit, remorse and rejections. Every relationship needs a binding factor. Some are attached by birth, some by a marriage certificate, some by their children and others that are emotionally bonded for no valid reason. Friendships fall under this category.

Every relationship has a beginning and an end. Sometimes beginnings remain hidden and sometimes the end. The latter being more fatal of the two. People are not meant to live alone. They need someone and that’s very true. But if that someone turns around and makes living difficult every few months, then maybe, just maybe, they fall in the latter half.

In the process of analyzing relationships, there are a few that fit each category mentioned.

With the ease with which I delete blogs, and posts and move ahead into newer ones, you would think that moving on is something that comes naturally to me. But life and people are not internet and blogging. They are real emotions , feelings and bonding and they rarely change. And I think they shouldn’t either. Because that would make me an abandoner. And I ‘d much rather be abandoned that the other way around.

I have learnt never to make promises. That too the hard way. I have a bad habit of trying to keep them even if they have lost meaning to the person involved. But then, that’s the person am I. I am just wondering out loud. Should I change?


12 thoughts on “Never Make a Promise

  1. I have learnt not to make promises or accept promises.. whats the harm in saying you will do your best always … Lot of phylosophy above you have written 🙂 and to reply you NO dont change yourself jsut because someone is being silly, BUT yeah change a bit to not let urself down if the other has forgotten the promise they are to fulfill OR you are to fulfill .. keep msiling 🙂 Bikram's


    • Some Promises come as a default in relationships. Some people are just not grown up enough to understand these be it man or woman.
      Just venting my anger. Thanks for reading .


  2. I am sorry about your frustrations Jyothi. As you have well expressed nothing is permanent in life and this includes the promises and those who promise but soon lose sight of it.So, my two cents would be, “forget the promises and forgive the loved one. It is not worth it. Fall in love all over again. The pain will ease”What am I – a saint? Hardly so. What works best for me I've shared with you.Let me know if it worked for you too. I have a feeling it will do.Hope you feel better soon!


    • That’s exactly what I do every single time! Do you realize that people like us don’t deserve to live in this world. It’s always better to be Ruthless and Adamant!
      I am better now. But I am sure there will be plenty more of this in my life. I have such Specimens in it!


    • True. So am I. During my childhood, I used to hear a lot of “God Promises” and “Mother Promises”. It used to be so funny. But nope, those are not the promises I am talking about here. Just the hidden mandatory ones that people tend to break all the time in relationships. Most of the time without even realizing it. And that includes me too actually. Ignorance is bliss!


  3. keeping the promises is a good habit.why should you leave it?..I always believe in being good myself, let others behave to their own does it better..because our good will always prevail in the end..


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