My Earliest Memory

My Earliest Memories

My Earliest Memories

I was barely 3 when my parents shifted from Chennai to Kerala. It has been told that I was the naughtiest child in the colony in Chennai. Apparently I had a boyfriend my age and we used to create havoc in the house when we were together. (Please, we were 3. Kindly refrain from indecent thoughts at least once in a while!)

I am told we tilted buckets of flour onto us and looked like white ghosts one day. When my sisters recounted these incidents to me, I could actually remember them. I remember the helpless anger on my mom’s face. Obviously, rice flour is of great importance in a Malayalee household! I think my mom’s Murukku was (world-)famous in our colony. I somehow remember her making those round and round designs onto a white cloth. She was always beautiful, but she looked most beautiful when she was not angry! This I remember too well.

My mom’s anger is (world-)famous. ( It’s my memory and I am allowed exaggeration) . If my sisters were foolish enough to commit mistakes, she would give them the silent treatment. That is worse than the shouting matches I have with my kids at home these days. Imagine how many less throat infections I would have had over the years if I had followed her footsteps! SHE JUST WOULDN’T TALK to us for days together! My sisters always envied me, because she always spoke to them through me during those times. I guess I was the youngest, sweetest and cutest always. (Again, I am allowed exaggeration).

My first memories revolved around my Grandmom. My mom’s mother. We stayed with her for almost two years in Kerala before shifting to Dubai. Our ancestral home in Palakkad was a typical “Tharavadu”. I remember running around in that huge house from Thallam (Dining Room) to Adukala (Kitchen) which was the center of the house. On both sides were verandahs and rooms on two floors with a staircase on each side to access the respective rooms. If my memory serves me right, that house had 8 bedrooms excluding the grain rooms and the rooms in the attic.

We had cows and goats in our sheds. Swaying coconut and beetle nut trees in the “parambu” around the house made those swishing sounds in the winds. Different varieties of mangoes and jackfruit trees everywhere. Plenty of vegetable patches neatly planted on acres and acres of land. I used to accompany the help when she fed the cows and the goats. My aunt used to force feed boiled fresh cow’s milk to us every night. I think that is when I  started hating the smell and taste of milk!

Farm House

I remember waiting for everyone to finish off their meals, I would gather all the banana peels and take it to Lakshmi , my favourite cow. She would moo at the sight of me, the help used to say. She knew her food was on its way. The help would then carry me towards Lakshmi and help me feed those banana peels directly into her mouth!

It is an amazing feeling when we try and think back to the very first memory that we have of our lives. It makes everything else around us seem so strangely unfamiliar. As I came out of the thoughts about these incidents, I felt misplaced in this apartment. Miles away from where I was born, and from where I first started my conscious life.

I wish my kids could run around and enjoy those gardens and plantations. That house has been taken down. All that remains are the foundation of the house , the wells and the animal sheds. Most of it in ruins. None of us have the time or the resources to go back and rebuild that lifestyle. I see that desire in my mom’s eyes even now. If there is one wish that I have that I know will never happen, it is to build a farm house there. To lead a life that I had seen with those young eyes at the tender age of 4. Carefree and in the lap of nature and its bounty. Fresh fruits, fresh vegetables, fresh grains, fresh milk and lots and lots of fresh air to breathe.

This is a part of a tag in our Facebook Write Tribe Group.

I was tagged by Aditi.

And I tag Sheethal.

Take it away Sheethal dear. 🙂 

Also adding this to the Write Tribe Wednesday Prompt which I have used in this post coincidently. 🙂

And the prompt “She looked most beautiful” comes from Shiva Kapoor who blogs at Where The Mind Is Without Fear.

Write Tribe
Pictures Courtesy : Sulekha Travels. Visit the webpage to see more photographs of the things I am talking about. Those pictures reminds me of those days. Too many coincidences happening with this post. 🙂

Chew more or less?

More than I can Chew

Chew more or less?

The question for the day is :

How often do you go back for seconds?

How did you know that? Have you seen my hourglass figure or what? I am forever trying to lose weight and never managing it. I am tired of making resolutions and I am not going to make them anymore. Period.

I have noticed that three things are helping me control my diet. Frequent small meals, using a small plate, and not going back for seconds. More or less, I have tried to incorporate this in to my daily routine. But sometimes it does become difficult to follow. I skip a few meals and then I end up taking a huge meal at an odd time. This is the sole reason for my not being able to lose weight.

I haven’t gone for walks for more than a month now. ( Ahem…. The reason is purely medical…something to do with Uric Acid and all). When I do go for those walks, I feel more peaceful at meal times, I feel as though I have earned the meal and relish it with love. When I don’t go for walks, I feel guilty about it and then I stress eat more than I can chew.

So the key is to go for regular walks, use small plates, eat frequent small meals and not go for seconds. Oh My, this looks like a list of resolutions for the New Year. And we all know how resolutions work out. 😀

We also need to drink plenty of water, have fresh fruits and vegetables, reduce the quantity of meat and carbohydrates and concentrate on more natural protein sources. These can be easily done.

We also need to stop having potato chips, chocolates and fizzy drinks completely. Fast food is an obvious health hazard. These cannot be easily done. At least not for me. I love junk food too much!

It is said that if you chew your food for a longer period of time, you will not put on more weight. I am guessing this is because we get too tired from chewing to eat more. 😀

So, what is your diet like? Do you skinny people eat anything cooked at all? (Grrr…)

NaBloPoMo December 2013
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A glass of water

A glass of water

A glass of water

The question for the day is :

Do you see the glass as half full or half empty?

It all boils down to the state of mind during the event that I am judging positively or negatively.

If I am facing problems that are beyond my control , nothing can make me feel optimistic about the situation. Yes, I adjust and move along. But thinking about the positivity in it never works for me. I agree once the problem is solved, it seems like it was not that big a problem after all. But when you are going through it, it becomes difficult to become philosophical or even joke about it.

There is an advantage though that comes with experience. We already know a little about what the outcome of the situation can be the next time. Hence we braze ourselves with plans to tackle any or either of the outcomes. Every event can have only two basic outcomes after all . They can either fail or they can become a success. So I guess it is all about being in the proper state of mind.

I am mostly termed as a carefree person. I don’t worry unnecessarily about things. But if something worrying happens then everything around begins to add fuel to it. Situations go out of hand and I am left feeling totally lost and alone. I believe in the past year I have grown out of this hyper active tension and worry situation. No problem is too big, no issue is unsolvable. It is basically a state of mind ( yeah , I used this phrase three times, so sue me!). If we learn to accept a situation as is, then the issue is solved once and for all. I believe it is us who change and adjust to situations. It rarely happens that the situation changes leaving us a happier lot. Happiness always comes from within. It is all about how we react to situations and how much we let situations effect us.

So yes, most of the time I see the glass as half full. Sometimes I see it as half empty and add in my tears and sorrows to try and make it full. A wasted effort I guess, but whatever helps me get through the day.

What about you? Is the glass half empty or half full in your life right now?

NaBloPoMo December 2013

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I am grateful

I am grateful

I am grateful

When all we can think of are the bad things happening to us, it is best to close our eyes and pray. Pray not for things to get better, for that would mean that we are still thinking about our troubles, but pray and be grateful for the small things in life that make up our day. My blogger friend Suzy’s FB timeline had this interesting post on Gratitude List. This inspired me to make a list of my own. Today seems like the perfect day to this because showing gratitude when things are going good is very easy to do. The list then would be endless. But when things are falling apart around you, the task becomes a bit daunting.

Something happened last week, that has ruined our plans a bit. So we are in the process of trying to figure how to get out of the mess. So I close my eyes today and pray for the things that went right in the past few days.

  1. Even though I read through most part of the night, I was able to wake up on time to make breakfast and send my kids to school on time.
  2. My kids have exams next week and finally the seriousness has sunk in this weekend.
  3. My driver’s license had expired in September and it was totally by accident that discovered this. Got it renewed yesterday.
  4. The carpenter found time to come and pick up the broken door of a cupboard to repair it yesterday.
  5. The maintenance fixed the light issue in the bathroom today.
  6. We managed to cancel three credit cards that were excess and weren’t being used much in the last few months. To get rid of temptations. 😀
  7. Even while I type this on my iPad , I am relaxing on my bed after an early morning siesta. I am thankful that this is a possibility in my life now.
  8. I got offered all the jobs I applied for. And I short listed one of them. Will start teaching again in March 2014. 🙂
  9. I have found the reason for all the aches and body pains that come into my life on a regular basis. I am on a month long medication and diet control for the same.
  10. My daughter and son are more mature and sorted out than I thought they were. Certain incidences over the week made me realize that I am not a bad mother after all. 😀

So what is your gratitude list? Do write about them and link up at Suzy’s blog. 🙂

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NaBloPoMo November 2013

The Liebster Award



The Liebster Blog Award: Liebster is German and means sweetest, kindest, nicest, dearest, beloved, lovely.Started in Germany(probably) & is used to highlight new/recent/lesser known blogs or let say blogs with less than 200 followers.

This is how it works
To accept the award, you must complete the following:
»   Link back to the persons blog that have nominated you
»   Nominate 10 more bloggers whom you feel are deserving of more subscribers & you pass the award on to them.
»   Answer all questions posted by the nominator
»   Create 10 questions for the nominees
»   Contact the nominees and let them know that they have been nominated for the Liebster
  • I have been nominated in the past but I rarely took the tag from them. The reason was that I never had enough people to tag and award on my list. This time around, I do. To all those others who have awarded me in the past and I have not been able to accept it, this is for you too even though I have picked my award from a warm and loving mother, blogger and friend Kathy. And yesterday at around midnight, the talented Sugandha tagged me too. 🙂 I have added her questions and their answers just now.
  • Here I nominate 10 bloggers who I read on a regular basis and a few I just recently discovered , who manage to make my blogging experience as wonderful as it is now.

1. Why do you write?
Simply because I love to write. 🙂

2. You are stranded in the middle of nowhere…who is with you and why?
I would love to be stranded with my first ever crush. I always wonder what happened to him.  😉

3. If you could be dropped inside the pages of a book and become a character of the story…which book would you choose and why?
I would love to be Miss Marple. I am sure at that age I will have lots of time to solve mysteries if I am alive and kicking.

4. If you could be any animal, which one would you be?
A bird . A parrot. I could fly. I would be colourful. I need to talk only if I really want to.

5. The waiter is at your table taking your drink order.What do you order?
I would order a fresh Orange juice or maybe a Fanta.

6. If you could invent a machine to do a task you hate for you, what would you invent?
I would invent a machine that I used to adore as a kid while watching Jetsons. The press of a button should get me scrambled eggs or pancakes or steak on the table. I hate cooking! The same machine should clear the table and dishes as well! 😀

7. Would you rather have magical powers or money?
Magical powers. Then I can get anything I want. Even those that money can’t buy. 😦

8. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
I would love to live in London. That is the only place that felt like home when I went visiting there. I have no idea why!

9. If you could go anywhere, where would you go?
I would go on a month long tour of the US of A. I have heard so much about it. Haven’t had the opportunity of even visiting it once as yet.

10. If you could have anything you wanted for Christmas, what would it be and why?
I would like to wake up to snow everywhere. Spend the entire week leading upto new years enjoying the snow fall and good company to stay indoors or maybe make a few snowmen and have a snow fight. Yes, I would like to celebrate a white Christmas at least once in my life.

  • Answer to Sugandha’s Questions: 

1. One place you recommend to visit.
Istanbul – the place has a mixture Arab and European lifestyle and its history is intriguing indeed.

2. Your favorite activity apart from blog and books.
I watch movies regularly much more than I blog or read. 😀

3. Fiction or non-fiction read.

4. Beach or hills, better holiday destination?
Hills. I am not too fond of swim wear. 😀

5. Your reaction to someone who hates blogging.
Ignorance is Bliss!

6. One mean thing you ever did to promote your blog.
I used to post my page and post links frequently on my FB wall. That was mean indeed. Now I let bloglovin do it. 😀

7. Stuck at 4 am, whom will you call apart from your spouse if you have one.
Both my sisters live close by. I would call my eldest first and then my second eldest if the first one is unreachable.

8. Favorite music genre.
Romantic, slow, soothing…. You get the drift…mushy stuff.

9. Music versus books, pick either.
Books these days. Music brings about a lot of memories.

10. Going out or stay indoors, what’s your idea of a perfect evening?
A family dinner out when everyone is in a happy mood. Followed by a walk along the beach enjoying our favourite ice creams.

  • My 10 Questions to the nominees :
    1. Who is it that inspired you to blog or who got you interested in blogging?
    2. How does blogging help you in your daily life?
    3. Who would you like to be stranded with in an unknown island for two days?
    4. What the three things that we do not know about you?
    5. It is said that we should be grateful in life. What are the 5 things you are grateful for at this point in time?
    6. Which blogging platform do you prefer? And why?
    7. What are the three places that you would like to visit in 2014?
    8. If you could suggest any family member or non blogging friend to blog, who would it be? And why?
    9. Is there a place you visited recently, that you would love to go back to ? If yes, then tell us why.
    10. If I were to ask you which book/movie has influenced you the most this year, which one would it be?
  • Going to inform the nominees as soon as I post this. 🙂

And I thus have officially accepted the award. Thank you Kathy and Sugandha. 🙂

NaBloPoMo November 2013

Say what?


SHE : You see that Malabar Gold ad?
HE : Yes?
SHE : I don’t think Kareena looks good in these ads. Her face looks funny!
HE : She has high cheek bones, maybe that is why.
SHE : Hmm…. Maybe.

After almost 24 hours…

SHE : What kind of cheek bones do I have?
HE : (Trying to figure out where that came from) Huh?
SHE : You know. High or Low?
HE : (Promptly) You have the best kind dear!

Yeah right…. Stare away dear, she is already married now. I just need that Jewellery. 😛