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It amazes me how people believe that everything that happens to them is a part of God’s elaborate plan.

Don’t get me wrong, I am just as religious and spiritual as the next guy. But I don’t believe in leaving everything in His/Her hands. Isn’t there a famous phrase that states something to that effect.

God helps those who help themselves…

Of course, what happens to us cannot be controlled, that’s for sure. But how we react to them is in our hands. We spend most of lives trying to learn how to do that well. Some people learn it earlier than the others. Others take time to understand and accept this.

Life presents us with tests, and just like in every other test, we are faced with bigger and harder tests as we clear and conquer the ones before. The difficulty level always depending on our previous responses.

Maybe if we stop handling such tests so well and mastering them, then maybe, just maybe, the tests will be simpler and easier. I think that would solve the problem of living a tough life. The easier life, though not so eventful, can give you a sense of relaxtion and happiness in its routine nature.

God tests those he loves…

It is best to remember that we are going through a tough time now because God thinks that we can handle it. He/She has that trust in us. It is upto to us to live up to that expectation. Ignoring and living with a problem is the other choice, of course.

When the going gets tough, the tough get going…

According to me, living one day at time is a better approach than looking at the whole big picture. The picture can last for a longer time in memories, I agree. But the emotions and behaviours of our daily lives leave us embedded in hearts and souls forever. Don’t you think so?

Again , the choice is ours…


Happiness Quotient


It doesn’t really mean anything if I say that I am happy. On the contrary, there is an inherent presence of sadness in that statement. There is no limit to the varied emotions that a person can experience. Happiness is just one minute piece of the entire emotional puzzle that our life is. Don’t you think so?

Sometimes a tear can express more happiness than a smile can. A smile , as it is widely accepted,  most of the time conceals terrible sadness. People who are exuberant in showcasing love and affection, need not necessarily be good. Just like not all  blunt and straight forward people are bad and emotionless.

So how can one claim to be happy and not be able to express it in ways other than words. A happy person is not identified by the smile on the face, it is by the warmth in their eyes. A blooming flower is a pretty sight, it brings about a smile on many faces. It is the happiness of a new beginning. A simple and yet very deep an emotion. But if it reminds you of a sad incident, even the prettiest of flowers can cause pain.

How exact a science is the art of happiness?  We create more memories with each passing day. Why not make them all good ones. If we learn to appreciate the small things in life, life can be a bliss. But if we keep concentrating only on the bigger picture of fame, fortune and happiness and forget to live our present, then there are high chances that even with the fame, fortune and happiness ultimately gained, will leave us feeling helpless and alone.

Just something to think about, I guess. Especially since there is no tax on Positive Thinking. Let’s consider Happiness Quotient as a balance of all human emotions. Without loss, you wouldn’t be able to appreciate the gain, would you?



It isn’t in the honour or accolades that a writer breathes,
It’s in the inner peace that writing brings,
I write to feel the warmth of the written word,
It’s effect on this cold soul within.

Many years of happiness and pain,
Maketh a writer more supreme,
A writer known for their writing will inturn,
Suffer many more years of happiness and pain.

How different is a writer from a normal soul?
How elite is this crowd that pride?
Aren’t humans a part of the stories we tell?
Aren’t emotions that we shamelessly sell?

Humans above humans, we know not what we think,
It is all for praise for a job well done,
While another human sits to decide, with malice even,
If what I write is in any way worth his while… 

A glass of water

A glass of water

A glass of water

The question for the day is :

Do you see the glass as half full or half empty?

It all boils down to the state of mind during the event that I am judging positively or negatively.

If I am facing problems that are beyond my control , nothing can make me feel optimistic about the situation. Yes, I adjust and move along. But thinking about the positivity in it never works for me. I agree once the problem is solved, it seems like it was not that big a problem after all. But when you are going through it, it becomes difficult to become philosophical or even joke about it.

There is an advantage though that comes with experience. We already know a little about what the outcome of the situation can be the next time. Hence we braze ourselves with plans to tackle any or either of the outcomes. Every event can have only two basic outcomes after all . They can either fail or they can become a success. So I guess it is all about being in the proper state of mind.

I am mostly termed as a carefree person. I don’t worry unnecessarily about things. But if something worrying happens then everything around begins to add fuel to it. Situations go out of hand and I am left feeling totally lost and alone. I believe in the past year I have grown out of this hyper active tension and worry situation. No problem is too big, no issue is unsolvable. It is basically a state of mind ( yeah , I used this phrase three times, so sue me!). If we learn to accept a situation as is, then the issue is solved once and for all. I believe it is us who change and adjust to situations. It rarely happens that the situation changes leaving us a happier lot. Happiness always comes from within. It is all about how we react to situations and how much we let situations effect us.

So yes, most of the time I see the glass as half full. Sometimes I see it as half empty and add in my tears and sorrows to try and make it full. A wasted effort I guess, but whatever helps me get through the day.

What about you? Is the glass half empty or half full in your life right now?

NaBloPoMo December 2013

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Will I finish?



The question for the day is :

Do you think you’re more or less likely to complete December’s NaBloPoMo?  Why?

I am sure I will be able to post till the 15th of December. In the sense, if nothing untoward happens, I will be able to make it to December 15th. Beyond that there maybe a problem if I have to shift from this apartment  and have no wifi for a few days while adjusting into the new place. But the shift itself is not a confirmed one. In case I don’t shift this month then I think I will be able to finish the challenge.

This is the thing that I want to challenge myself  to. To be able to write and post everyday no matter what. From today I am going to start to plan for Dec 8th to Dec 14th Write Tribe’s Festival of Words. Getting the posts ready in advance is the only way I guess I will be able to get through that one.

There have always been such undecided situations in my life. Will I get that job or not? Will I get the promotion or not? Will I be able to make the payments on time or not? Will the kids do well in the exams or not? Should I shift or not from this apartment? So many questions and confusions. The future is obviously not in our hands. We just need to hope to be able to complete the task we take up. We need to work hard at keeping our word. We need to show to others as well as ourselves that we are good with commitments. Not just with our job and family, but with ourselves too. This is something that I have learnt along this journey of four decades and I intend to take it to the next decade with me. I have given up enough things in life for varied reasons and broken commitments to myself that now I know I need to be happy with myself to make others around me happy. And failing a commitment is a terrible source of disappointment and unhappiness.

What about you? Do you think you will be able to complete the daily posting challenge for December 2013?

NaBloPoMo December 2013

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I am grateful

I am grateful

I am grateful

When all we can think of are the bad things happening to us, it is best to close our eyes and pray. Pray not for things to get better, for that would mean that we are still thinking about our troubles, but pray and be grateful for the small things in life that make up our day. My blogger friend Suzy’s FB timeline had this interesting post on Gratitude List. This inspired me to make a list of my own. Today seems like the perfect day to this because showing gratitude when things are going good is very easy to do. The list then would be endless. But when things are falling apart around you, the task becomes a bit daunting.

Something happened last week, that has ruined our plans a bit. So we are in the process of trying to figure how to get out of the mess. So I close my eyes today and pray for the things that went right in the past few days.

  1. Even though I read through most part of the night, I was able to wake up on time to make breakfast and send my kids to school on time.
  2. My kids have exams next week and finally the seriousness has sunk in this weekend.
  3. My driver’s license had expired in September and it was totally by accident that discovered this. Got it renewed yesterday.
  4. The carpenter found time to come and pick up the broken door of a cupboard to repair it yesterday.
  5. The maintenance fixed the light issue in the bathroom today.
  6. We managed to cancel three credit cards that were excess and weren’t being used much in the last few months. To get rid of temptations. 😀
  7. Even while I type this on my iPad , I am relaxing on my bed after an early morning siesta. I am thankful that this is a possibility in my life now.
  8. I got offered all the jobs I applied for. And I short listed one of them. Will start teaching again in March 2014. 🙂
  9. I have found the reason for all the aches and body pains that come into my life on a regular basis. I am on a month long medication and diet control for the same.
  10. My daughter and son are more mature and sorted out than I thought they were. Certain incidences over the week made me realize that I am not a bad mother after all. 😀

So what is your gratitude list? Do write about them and link up at Suzy’s blog. 🙂

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NaBloPoMo November 2013